Have been reading a book named ETIQUETTE OF ISLAM (Aaab-e-Zindagi) by Mohammad Yusuf Islahi now this book emphasizes upon the healthy ways of living in Islam and practicing them in real.Many chapter’s are there still have to read them since it’s just a wk since i started reading this book so many pages unturned.But one chapter i have read and wish to share with everyone who ever is visiting my blog name of the chapter is DECENT LIVING – Etiquette of Friendship.

Now people might think………”ki ghoom phir ke ye FRIENDSHP per hi kyun aajate” may be coz i like this subject and of course why not my blog fafe stands for “FRIENDS ARE FOR EVER” people very special in anyone’s life………..with whom you share your good and bad experiences, and actually speaking i use to write many poem’s on friendship but these days for a change got into writing prose ……………khair lets get back to the main topic this is matter im just copying down from the above mentioned book and here it goes…….

Love your friends and become the object of love for your friends.The man who is held in deep affection by his friends and who cherishes feelings of love for his friends is the most fortunate person.The person who avoids the company of other people and whom the people regard with feelings of disgust is the most deprived man.The man who has no wealth is not poor.In point of fact great poverty consists in being friendless:( .A friend makes life beautiful,acts as a supporter in the journey of life and is gift of Allah.Make friends and become friends of others.The holy Prophet (S.A.W) has affirmed.

“The believer is an embodiment of love and affection.And the man who neither loves other nor is loved by others has no good virtue in him “

The Holy Quran has affirmed :
“The believing men and believing women are protecting friends of one another.”

Maintain amicable social relations with your friends and try to develop sincere links and continue to cement friendships.Avoid adopting an attitude of annoyance with your friends or keeping aloof from them.
The Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has observed :

“The Muslim who participates in social matters with other men and shows forbearance if he suffers any pain from them is a far better person than the one who isolates himself from the people and is dismayed at the hardships caused by others.”

ok now the above paras saying something very general which we all are very familiar also that to b in society you need to be in social relations with others so that’s a routine practice as well as observed by many beings and what importance this social networking has in ISLAM.

But here now i request you readers to read more carefully as the preceding paras sayz what type of company we should be in and what type of friends we should make.

Form friendship with the pure and righteous people.In the choice of friends do keep in mind the thought as to how far the people with whom you are forging bonds of amity and friendship ca prove useful to you from the viewpoint of religion and morality.There is a famous maxim which says :If you wish to ascertain the moral state of a man , look at the moral condition of his friends.” And the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has observed:

” A man follows the beliefs of his friend,hence each man should deeply consider the question as to what kind of a man is the person with whom he is striking a friendship.”

The observation that a man will follow the belief of his friend implies that when a man keeps the company of his friend he will be affected by the sentiments, thoughts , taste and the mental outlook of his friend.He will inevitably begin to judge things to the standard of likes and dislikes adopted by his friend.Hence a man should exercise utmost care in choosing a friend and should establish bond’s of affection and friendship with a person whose taste,temperament, and activities conform to the tenets of faith and religion.The Holy Prophet(S.A.W) has enjoined :

“Develop a relationship of love and friendship with a believer only and eat and drink in his company only.” Furthermore the Holy Prophet(S.A.W) affirmed :

“Keep company with the believer and only the righteous should eat from the DASTAR KHWAN of a believer.”

Eating together naturally stimulates sentiments of warm affection and love between friends and these links should only be developed with the believers who are Allah fearing and righteous people always keep away from those who have forgotten Allah and are irresponsible and indifferent in carrying out the commands of religion and are immersed in immorality.The Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has described the nature of relationship with a good and bad friend in a sublime allegory.

“The example of a good or a bad friend is like that of a dealer of musk perfume and an iron smith who stokes the furnace.”

Love you friends for the sake of Allah.The favorites of Allah are those who join together on the basis of Allah’s religion and struggle shoulder to shoulder with perfect unity of mind and soul to discharge their obligation of establishing the religion of Allah and stand like a solid wall in defense of their creed.

The Holy Quran affirms :

” Lo! Allah loveth those who battle for his cause in ranks as if they were a solid structure.”

Hmmm so this a piece of WORD’S wanted to share with my blog visitor’s………….. i conclude my say………….a person is  miser with worlds whole wealth with no friends and wealthier even in poorest social status in presence of true righteous friends ……….so hold back your old friends and maintian friendship with them  and keep making new friends coz you never know whats their in store for you and when ull loose your Dear Friend in the dayz to come……….As Time and Tide waits for none so do event’s of destiny or fate happen’s with an eyes blink………

Me signing off till my next post……….

Shireen Ali