Have been reading a book named ETIQUETTE OF ISLAM(Aaab-e-Zindagi) by Mohammad Yusuf Islahi

now this book emphasises upon the healthy wayz of leaving in Islam and practising them in

real.Many chapter’s are there still have to read them since it’s just a wk since i started

reading this book so many pages unturned.But one chapter i have read and wish to share with

everyone who ever is visiting my blog name of the chapter is DECENT LIVING – Etiquette of

Friendship.
Now people might think………”ki ghoom phir ke ye FRIENDSHP per hi kyun aajate” may b

coz i like this subject and ofcourse why not my blog fafe stands for “FRIENDS ARE FOR EVER”

people very special in anyones life………..with whom you share your good and bad

experiences, and actually speaking i use to write many peom’s on friendshp but these dayz

for a change got into writing prose ……………khair lets get back to the main topic

this is matter im jst copying down frm the above mentioned book and here it goes…….

Love your friends and become the object of love for your friends.The man who is held in

deep affection by his friends and who cherishes feelings of love for his friends is the most

fortunate person.The person who avoids the company of other people and whom the people

regard with feelings of disgust is the most deprived man.The man who has no wealth is not

poor.In point of fact great poverty consists in being friendless:( .Afriend makes life

beautiful,acts as a supporter in the journey of life and is gift of Allah.Make friendss and

become friends of others.The holy Prophet (S.A.W) has afirmed.

“The believer is an embodiment of love and affection.And the man who neither loves ohter

nor is loved by ohters has no good virtue in him “

The Holy Quran has affirmed :
“The believing men and believing women are protecting friends of one anohter.”

Maintain amicable social relations with your friends and try to develop sincere links and

continue to cement friendships.Avoid adopting an attitude of annoyance with your friendsor

keeping aloof from them.
The Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has observed :

“The Muslim who participates in social matters with ohter men and shows forbearance if he

suffers any pain from them is a far better person than the one who isolates himself from the

people and is dismayed at the hardships casued by others.”

ok now the above paras saying sumthing very general which we all are very familiar also tht

to b in society you need to be in social relations with ohter’s so thats a routine practice

as well as observed by many beings and what importance this social networking has in ISLAM.
But here now i request you readers to read more carefully as the preceding paras sayz what

type of company we should be in and what type of friends we should make.

Form friendship with the pure and righteous people.In the choice of friends do keep in

mind the thought as to how far the people with whom you are forging bonds of amity and

friendship ca prove useful to you from the viewpoint of religion and morality.There is a

famous maxim which says :If you wish to ascertain the moral state of a man , look at the

moral condition of his friends.” And the Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has observed: ” A man follows

the beliefs of his friend,hence each man should deeply consider the question as to what kind

of a man is the person with whom he is striking a friendship.”

The observation that a man will follow the belief of his friend implies that when a man

keeps the company of his friend he will be afected by the sentiments, thoughts , taste and

the mental outlook of his friend.He will inevitably begin to judge things to the standard of

likes and dislikes adopted by his friend.Hence a man should excercise utmost care in

choosing a friend and should establish onds of afection and friendship with a person whose

taste,tempermant, and activities conform to the tenets of faith and religion.The Holy

Prophet(S.A.W) has enjoined : “Develop a relationship of love and friendship with a believer

only and eat and drink in his company only.” Furthermore the Holy Prophet(S.A.W) affirmed :

“Keep company with the believer and only the righteous should eat from the DASTAR KHWAN of

a believer.”

Eating together naturally stimulates sentiments of warm affection and love between friends

and these links should only be developed with the believers who are Allah fearing and

righteous people always keep away from those who have forgotten Allah and are irresponsible

and indifferent in carrying out the commands of religion and are immersed in immorality.The

Holy Prophet (S.A.W) has described the nature of relationship with a good and bad friend in

a sublime allegory.

“The example of a good or a bad friend is like that of a dealer of musk perfume and an

ironsmith who stokes the furnace.”

Love you friends for the sake of Allah.The favourites of Allah are those who join together

on the basis of Allah’s religion and struggle shoulder to shoulder with perfect unity of

mind and soul to discharge their obligation of establishing the religion of Allah and stand

like a solid wall in defence of their creed.

The Holy Quran affirms :

” Lo! Allah loveth those who battle for his cause in ranks as if they were a solid

structure.”

Hmmm so this a piece of WORD’S wanted to share with my blog visitor’s…………..i

conclude my say………….a person a miser with worlds whole wealth with no friends and

wealtheir eve in poorest social status in resence of true rghteous friends:)……….so

hold back your friends coz and keep making new friends coz you never know what their in

store for you and when ull loose you Dear Friend in the dayz to come……….As Time and

Tide waits for none so do event’s f destiny or fate happen’s with an eyes blink………

Me signing off till my next post……….

Shireen Ali:)